It all hit the fan when Christian blogger Veronica Partridge wrote she would no longer wear leggings or yoga pants in public because she learned men check out women wearing leggings or yoga pants in public.
No new news here.
Everyone knows guys will also check out women wearing stilettos, skirts, jeans, sweatpants, cat t-shirts, velour running suits and parkas.
Nonetheless, the blogosphere went bat-guano crazy. Some women openly mocked Partridge for her beliefs and accused her of perpetuating slut-shaming and rape culture. Others angrily defended their personal right to show fellow Target shoppers their butt, thighs and nether-regions covered by a form-fitting layer of unforgiving Spandex.
I don’t agree with Partridge’s position, but I don’t disagree, either. As a fellow Christian, I really can’t argue with a woman who acts out of conviction from the Holy Spirit; we’re supposed to do what the Holy Spirit tells us.
For those not familiar with church lingo, “conviction” is not a negative, punitive action. In its simplest definition, it is a feeling of being sure God wants you to change something. The Holy Spirit is the part of God that lives inside a believer.
Conviction is different for each person. Some people may feel convicted about drinking wine or wearing yoga pants, while others may not. Both are okay with God.
I admire Partridge for her conviction, but she and I are different. I often wear leggings out in public – paired with a tunic, t-shirt or oversized sweater. The only way people could see anything remotely provocative is if I did a full backbend, launched a few side kicks or Krazy ®-glued my hands to the top of my feet, which ain’t likely to happen at my kids’ school, office, grocery store or church.
Yes, I wear them to church. Yoga pants and leggings are not intrinsically unchristian. A woman can wear them and be comfortable, fashionable, modest and free from husband-poaching intentions. (See photo above.)
We’re missing the big picture:
Lust happens regardless of what women wear
Some of my fellow Christian ladies don’t agree. While reading comments generated from Partridge’s post, I came across things like:
- “Women who wear those are just begging for attention.”
- “I would never do anything to entice another woman’s husband.”
Sisters, we need to take a big step back and look at the big picture. Yes, modesty is an important part of Christian life, but while we pat ourselves on the back with sanitized hands, we are missing a HUGE chunk of reality:
It doesn’t matter what a woman wears; lust happens.
Yes, there is clothing that invites a little too much attention, but even an over-sized sweatshirt and a pair of overalls can cause testosterone to peak.
Let’s face it. If you’ve got boobs, you’ve got their attention.
And it’s not your fault.
Nor is it any other woman’s fault.
We cannot control what goes on in their heads.
I remember reading a blog post from a teenage girl who was chastised at a praise band practice because a boy was found masturbating in a darkened back row. The girl, who was naturally well-endowed, was accused of tempting the boy and was not allowed back on the stage.
Yup, she was totally begging for attention and deliberately enticing the guy.
Imagine how much worse the temptation would have been for him if she had been wearing yoga pants or leggings.
Or a parka.